Attracting The Girls You Really Want
Every week, I receive emails from guys who wonder what they’re doing wrong when trying to get the women they like. After hundreds of these emails, it’s pretty clear to me that some of you aren’t applying what I’m teaching you. If you actually took action on the tips I’ve been giving you, you’d have a ton of success meeting, dating, or just having fun with women. So, let’s try to fix the problem.
First, understand that attraction trumps everything. If you can get a woman to feel attraction for you, very little else matters. She may tell you that “you make her mad” or she’s “angry with you” and doesn’t even know why. It doesn’t matter. If she’s attracted to you, she won’t be able to stop thinking about you.
Let’s take a look at how you can create this level of attraction.
Avoid Going Too Far
A lot of guys sabotage their chances from the moment they see a girl. They may be confident and funny, but once they see a woman they like, they shift into “Wuss” mode. It’s a little depressing to watch. They’ll buy cards for the girl. The really sad sacks will buy flowers. They’ll go to great lengths to please the girl.
If you’re doing these things, you need to stop. They send a woman clear signals that you’re crazy about her. There’s no mystery. There’s no chase or thrill involved. You may as well put yourself on a silver platter. When that happens, you’ve given up control.
Take Control To Build Attraction
If you see a woman you like, approach her. Be a little cocky and show your funny side. This is what sows the seeds of attraction. Don’t buy her a card or flowers. Poke a little fun at her. For example, ask her if she’s ever been to a certain restaurant. If she hasn’t, tell her you feel bad for her and you’re “going to do her a favor” by taking her. Tell her what time to be ready. Most women feel attracted to guys who are willing to show leadership. It’s natural and instinctive to be drawn to leaders.
Some guys cringe at the thought of being brash and taking control like this. Those are the guys who stay home alone on the weekends.
Being Brash And Funny
Remember, attraction is everything. But, creating it in a woman and making her feel that attraction toward you requires finesse. It takes thought and strategy. Show your brash and funny side by making fun of her (don’t be overtly-insulting, of course). Then, take control by either getting her phone number or asking her out on the spot. Chances are, you’ll catch her off-guard. After all, there aren’t many guys out there who can light the fire of attraction so easily.
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So what do you do when you run into women who aren’t desperate? You know what I’m talking about…the ones who laugh in your face for talking to them that way.