Dating More Than One Woman At A Time

July 7, 2008

I’m very proud of some of you. You’re taking my advice, putting it into action and reaping the rewards. A lot of you have gone from wussy disasters to dating machines. And some of you are now dealing with the “problem” of going out with multiple women at the same time. That’s a great problem to have. And it brings up a few unique challenges.

At some point, the women you’re having fun with are going to find out about the others. That can work to your advantage (which I’ll explain in a moment). But, your success in dating several women at once has a lot to do with your approach, goals and your ability to stick to your guns.

Let’s get started.

Is It Really What You Want?

A lot of men get caught up in the idea that they should be dating several women at the same time. Now, if you truly want to do that, fine. Do it. I’m a big proponent of dating plenty of girls to find the good ones. But, if you don’t want to date multiple women, don’t force yourself to fulfill some fantasy created by someone else. You need to decide what you want. That way, if you really like a girl and she wants to be exclusive, you can make your decision based on your goals, not on someone else’s strange ideal of masculinity.

Sticking To Your Guns

Assuming you want to go out with more than one woman at a time, be prepared when one (or more) of them tells you that they want to see you exclusively. If you’ve been stoking the flames of attraction like I’ve taught you, it shouldn’t surprise you that they want you all to themselves.

Now, you’ve already decided that you want to date multiple women. You made your decision for a reason. That’s important. If you don’t agree to be exclusive with a girl, you might lose her. If your reason is still valid, you should be okay with losing her. Tell her, “Listen, it’s a lot of fun hanging out with you. But, I’m not willing to be exclusive with you until I know you better.”

If anything, this will make you even more attractive to the girl.

The Fine Line Between Jealousy And Attraction

People are strange, if predictable. When they can’t have what they want, they want it even more. If a girl wants you to be exclusive and you’ve stuck to your guns by letting her know that you prefer to date others, she’ll be more attracted to you nine times out of ten. But, you need to be careful here. The last thing you want is a psycho on your trail. Creating an intense feeling of attraction in a girl is great. That’s what you should be doing. But, when that attraction turns into jealousy, you may need to pull up stakes and end things with her.

Know what you want and stick to your guns. Keep building that feeling of attraction in all of the women you spend time with. Like I said, that’s a great problem to have.

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