eHarmony Review

July 11, 2008


I’ve been a member of several high-profile dating websites for years. I like to see how the memberships work and the features they offer so I can keep tabs on them. I’ve been exploring eHarmony’s service recently. Right off the bat, you’ll notice it’s a lot different than the other memberships. Here’s why: they focus on getting people together who’ll stay together. A lot of other dating sites are glorified meat markets. You’ll see the same singles circulating. eHarmony takes steps to match people who can actually build a relationship. Here’s what I discovered since becoming a member…

Notable Features

I have to mention the personality profile. It’s one of the standout features that makes eHarmony unique. Now, I’ve filled out these profiles for dozens of dating websites. They’re all pretty much the same. They ask a few questions and you’re done in about 15 minutes. Pretty easy.

eHarmony’s profile questionnaire has hundreds of questions (really)! At first, it’s overwhelming. But, when you think about it, this is the reason they have more members getting married to each other than any other dating website (90 members get married every day). eHarmony asks questions about your character, emotional profile, personality, values and other things. It’s exhaustive. But, it works.

Searching through eHarmony is also unique. They basically find matches for you rather than your having to search through the profiles of millions of other singles. If you want to communicate with other members, you can do it through a “Fast Track” system (which basically lets you email members) or a “Standard” option. The “Standard” option manages the communication by using a bunch of multiple choice questions. Each member answers the questions and if there’s a compatibility match, you get to communicate openly with each other.

My Personal Opinion

When I joined eHarmony, my first impression was “this is odd.” Everything is different than what I’m used to. Searching is gone. Communication is managed. The profile questionaire is… tiring. But, now I’m a believer. If you just want to be in the meat market, circulating with a bunch of other singles, eHarmony may not be the right fit. But, if you want to actually meet someone and have a chance of things working out long-term, this site seems perfectly-designed for it.

Membership Levels

You can join eHarmony for 1, 3, 6, or 12 months. If you want to go month-by-month, a membership will cost you $59.95. Otherwise, the 3-month plan costs $110.85, a 6-month membership costs $173.70 and the big 12-month plan runs $251.40 (it’s billed every 4 months). Each level offers the same features; the only difference is the price. The longer you commit, the less you’ll pay on a monthly basis.

Love, Romance And More On eHarmony

It’s hard to argue with eHarmony’s numbers. 90 members getting married each day is impressive. So, their methodology speaks for itself. That said, it’s not for everyone. If you just want to meet a bunch of singles for casual encounters, there are other sites for that.

But, If your goal is to get married and start a family someday (and you want to meet your partner now), you should probably consider using eHarmony. It takes a little getting used to (especially if you’re a member of other popular dating sites), but their system is designed to match people for long-term success. It certainly seems like they’re doing something right.

When I was thinking about how to rate eHarmony, I had to think about the stuff that seemed odd to me. After thinking about it…

I’m giving it a rating of:
(4.5 out of 5 stars)


2 Responses to “eHarmony Review”

  1. S Smith on March 15th, 2009 3:22 am

    As a Newbie, I am always searching online for articles that can help me. Thank you

  2. Merrill on January 29th, 2010 10:42 am

    Maybe I am still too shallow. I need to see a picture first to see if any chemistry is there. I am not saying that if the guy isn’t perfect, I won’t go out, or communicate further. But looking at a good pic is a start.

    I am not an outdoors person at all nor do I cook. Yet most of my matches like to do outdoors things. Why are we getting matched when I specifically say I don’t like outdoors nor do I like to cook. How are they doing their matching? Maybe whoever they have available.

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