How Compliments Can Sabotage Your Success With Women

June 10, 2008

If you’re new to my dating tips, what I’m about to tell you will surprise you. It goes against everything your parents and friends have told you about how to treat women. Here it is: complimenting a woman can destroy any attraction she feels for you. Longtime readers who have followed my advice know this to be true. In fact there are 2 ways that compliments can sabotage your success with girls.

Complimenting A Woman Makes You Boring

One of the most potent ways to create attraction in a woman is by offering her something new and exciting. Every guy who approaches a hot girl gives her compliments. It’s boring and tedious. If you approach that same girl and tell her hot she is, she’s going to lump you in with all of the other guys. She’ll think you’re either weak, fake, boring, or all 3 combined.

Instead of tossing a woman compliments every chance you get, show a little cockiness and humor. Push her a little while letting her know that you’re not going to put up with her if she’s too much trouble. Now, this doesn’t mean you need to be a jerk. Just challenge her playfully. If she asks how her outfit looks, grin and say, “Well, if everything else is at the cleaners, what can you do?”

Forget the compliments that other guys dole out desperately.

Complimenting A Woman Makes You Seem Fake

When you tell a woman she’s beautiful, she doesn’t take it at face value. She’s turning the compliment over in her head. She’s interpreting and analyzing the meaning behind it. She’s trying to figure out your motivation behind the compliment. Yes, the mind of a woman is a murky, mysterious region. If you can understand how to leverage it, you can create attraction and desire in her almost effortlessly.

Now, chances are, when you tell her she’s gorgeous, she’s thinking you just want to have sex with her (which is probably true). You need to understand that telling a woman directly what you’re thinking about them is a recipe for failure. Instead, you should be using reverse psychology to create desire in her. Poke a little fun at her. Catch her off-guard with a playful and cocky attitude.

Here’s an example…

If you see a hot girl checking her makeup in a mirror, say, “It doesn’t look that bad. Besides, it’s dark in here. I don’t think too many people are going to notice.” First, she’s instantly going to become a little self-conscious. She’ll think something really is wrong with her makeup. Second, how many guys do you think approach a hot girl and bust on her makeup? Zero. You’ve just stood out from the pack. She’ll be curious about you.

So, forget about giving compliments. They’ll sabotage your efforts in creating desire in women. Focus on developing your cocky and funny approach. Then, throw in a few negative hits to catch her completely off-guard. She’ll find you more exciting than 99% of the guys she meets.

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