How To Avoid Being Considered A Jerk By Women

February 12, 2008

When you’re meeting a new woman, you need to have a way to make a first impression that’ll last in her mind. Something that ignites a spark in her head. Now, a lot of guys don’t know how to do this. Usually, they go overboard and turn out looking like complete morons. Trust me guys, women have seen it all. If you act like an idiot, they’re going to treat you like an idiot. But, if you can be funny, challenging and non-confrontational while coming across like you respect her, you’ll improve your chances tenfold.

Teasing Without Going Too Far

You can’t be boring with your target (or woman, lady, whatever you want to call her). If you’re going to make any type of impression, you need to show her some personality. Learn to tease her a little bit. It’ll stimulate her mentally, even if it’s the only thought in her head. She’ll remember you. And she’ll have fun being teased which will prep her for the takedown.

Listen, if you can tease a woman in the right way, without her getting the feeling that you’re coming on too strong (she has no idea, does she?), she’ll think you’re fun to be around and that you like keeping things light. They like that in the beginning. Use it to your advantage.

What To Do If You’ve Gone Too Far

It happens. You’re having fun, you’re getting a good response from your target (whoops… woman) and you’re in the moment. You think you’ve got the night sealed tight. Then, it happens. You say something that offends her delicate sensibilities. You can see it in her eyes. She’s turned off. But, don’t panic. You can flip her back on if you know what you’re doing. It’s time to recover. Fast.

First, downplay whatever you said that turned her off. Say something about it that she’ll think is funny. If that doesn’t work, laugh the comment off. Give her a friendly chuckle and let her know you didn’t mean it (even if you did). You’ll be surprised at how quickly you can switch gears and change the tone of the conversation if you move fast.

But, you need learn from what just happened. If she doesn’t respond to something you say, change your game. If you keep crossing the line and then laugh all of your comments off, she won’t take you seriously. Learn to tease the woman while testing the waters. But, keep pushing a little to see where that line is.

Learn To Tease For More Success

If you pay attention while you’re teasing your target, you’ll learn how to read her body and facial language pretty quickly. It takes some time, but you’ll get it. With practice, you’ll become much better at downplaying your comments when you take it too far. If you blow it, don’t beat yourself up about it. Recover and learn from it. The only way you’re going to get better at teasing is by doing it all the time. Once you learn how to do well, you’ll be able to ignite the spark (some women call it chemistry) in just about any woman you meet.

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