Succeed With Women By Leaving Your Comfort Zone

March 23, 2008

If you’re not having any success with women, I can almost guarantee your problems boil down to one thing: not being willing to leave your comfort zone. Let me explain what’s happening. Nobody likes leaving their comfort zone. We get accustomed to doing the same things in the same way. But, that can destroy your chances of success with girls.

Think about it. Most of the guys who are meeting and going out with tons of sexy women did something that was uncomfortable at first: walking up to a girl and talking to her. Now, it’s second nature to them, but they had to leave their comfort zone to do it the first time. So, let’s talk about getting uncomfortable.

The Difference Between Manipulation And Growing

First things first. You need to understand that learning how to attract women isn’t about manipulation. You’re not manipulating anyone. Instead, you’re simply learning new skills. You’re learning how to attract, how to act, how to move and motivate and how to get women to respond to you. You’re leaving your comfort zone to develop a new skill, not to manipulate.

Here’s an example… remember the first time you had sex? You didn’t know what you were doing, right? But, after a few times, you developed that skill. Now, you can do it without even thinking about it. It’s the same way with learning to meet girls.

Being Upfront To Get What You Want

Being upfront with a woman is uncomfortable. Mostly, it’s because men were never trained to deal with a woman’s emotional responses to things that anger, offend, or excite them. But, you need to get over that discomfort. If you want to know something about her, ask. If she’s doing something that annoys you, tell her. Don’t worry about her reaction. Being upfront will save time and she’ll actually begin to trust you more openly. It shows that you know what you want and you’re willing to take charge to get it.

Most guys never leave their comfort zone. If something bugs them, they dance around so they don’t anger or offend the girl. That’s a fast way to completely sabotage your success with women. They’re treading water with no life buoy. In other words, they’re doomed. But, you’re smarter than that. Be a man, be upfront and get what you want (even if it’s uncomfortable at first).

Get Comfortable And Have More Success

Everything is uncomfortable the first time you do it. Walking up to a girl, creating attraction, having sex… they all force you to leave your comfort zone. But, that’s the way you get comfortable doing those things. So, plan to get outside your shell to learn to learn how to attract women and be upfront with them. Trust me, it gets easier and it’ll become second nature very quickly.

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