The Essence Of Attraction Conversation

July 22, 2008

Attraction ConversationSometimes, I feel sorry for some of the guys out there. Let me tell you what happened the other day. I was in a bookstore near my place. I watched a guy approach a woman and try to talk to her. “How’s it going?” he asked her. She looks up at the guy and says, “Is there something I can help you with?” He dissolved right in front of her. No comeback. Within seconds, he was done. She burned him down and he retreated with his tail between his legs.

I was blown away. He had a hundred ways to turn it around, slam the ball back and create attraction in this woman. Instead, he left defeated. So, I made a note of it. I can’t bare the thought of you falling into the same trap. Let’s talk about using conversation to build attraction.

“What” Matters Less Than “How”

One of the things that constantly trips up men who want to be successful with women is that they don’t know what to talk about with women. Here’s the funny thing: what you talk about isn’t nearly as important as how you talk about it. It doesn’t matter if you’re talking about lipstick, motorcycles, or the latest celebrity news. Do it the wrong way and you’ll put her to sleep. But, if you approach it correctly, you can generate attraction instantly.

The way you move your body when you’re talking, flirting and being funny, using eye contact to be subtly seductive and poking fun at the girl… they’re all part of attraction conversation. She won’t even realize how attracted she is until she’s handing you her phone number.

The Art Of Playful Banter

Most beautiful women are used to guys falling over themselves when they try to talk to them. It’s actually entertaining to watch. It’s also a good lesson in what not to do. Their problem is that they get intimidated. You need to master the art of banter. It’s okay to be cocky. In fact, you should be. But, the real skill is always having a comeback that you can lob over the net. When a woman says things that imply she’s turned off (for example, “you think you’re pretty special, don’t you?”), she’s opening the door for you to crush the ball. Men who understand attraction already know this and leverage it.

Pulling Her In And Getting Her Ready

First, you need to realize that you create attraction. All of that talk about chemistry is nonsense. You create chemistry. You already have the ingredients. It’s in the way you start and maintain a conversation. Use body language, eye contact, hidden meanings and flirting to pull the girl in. You control these things. If you’re bad at it, get better. By mastering the art of conversation, you’ll be able to build attraction whenever you want with whomever you want. It’s not magic. It just takes practice (and someone like me to help you).


3 Responses to “The Essence Of Attraction Conversation”

  1. Rob on July 30th, 2008 4:34 pm

    As funny as the guy in the opening paragraph is, the DEFCON 2 response is only necessary if you’re a desperate telemarketer or a TV shopping network salesman.

    I can just imagine you selling orange juice…

    “Have you~ studed the benefits of citric~ acid~?” You reposition your hips and smile to convey enthusiasm. You show emotional appeal (pity) and continue acting as if you’ve invented the internet, only to be ignored as your audience changes the channel to avoid one more second of your agony.

  2. Chris on August 14th, 2008 3:51 am

    I agree attitude is more important than the subject of conversation; I even agree that how you say something is more important than what you say. But I can’t agree that, as in the example, a bookstore is the most effective place to approach women. Women only feel sexy and open to approach in bookstores in the more-literate-than-average porn magazines. Trying to make her feel open when the environment is against it is just not going to work in most cases.

  3. Whatdidyousay on January 14th, 2009 12:15 am

    I dont know what it is. I guess my body language is bad or something. I try everysingle approach during different dates from complimenting to acting cool and uninterestd and nothing I do builds attraction. I dont see any visual signals or compliments directed to during dates. Its like pulling teeth to find the slightest bit of interest from the women i’m with during the first date. I dont think i’m a bad looking guy, i mean i’m fit I have a white collar job, but every time I go on first dates, I feel like i’m talking through a job interview. .
    THis is crap I dont know what to do anymore

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