The Secret To Being Confident With Women

June 16, 2008

Confidence is one the most common problems that guys have with women. It’s also the most perplexing. When a guy loses his confidence, he’s giving the girl all the power she wants. He loses control of the encounter. And once he loses control, he’s finished.

Girls feel desire for confident guys. After all, confidence implies leadership. It suggests quick decision-making. These are traits that should be yours by birthright. If you’ve somehow lost your confidence with women, getting it back is crucial to meeting and going out with them.

The Root Of Lack Of Confidence

The reason guys lack confidence with women is because of their own insecurities. Maybe they don’t have a good job and think the girl will be turned off by it. Or, maybe the money they bring home each week is embarrassing to them and they think girls will laugh at them. Maybe they think women won’t be attracted to their looks.

The one thing they all have in common is that they actually care what women think about those things.

Listen up. There are unemployed guys meeting hot women and having sex when you’re still at home depressed about your job. There are guys so far in debt that they make your small paycheck look like a king’s ransom. Meanwhile, they’re going out with beautiful girls while you’re feeling sorry for yourself. And trust me, there are guys who look like crossbreeds of animals on the lowest part of the food chain mixing it up with gorgeous women while you’re worrying about your nose.

The point is, you need to deal with your insecurities.

How To Gain Confidence And Create Attraction

First, you need to realize that anything you’re feeling insecure about is in your head. Who cares about your crappy job, small paycheck, or funny looks? Other guys with worse problems in those areas are hooking up with hot girls every single night. So, understand that your thoughts are holding you back. Nothing more.

Second, write down all of the things you’re insecure about. One by one, go through them and ask yourself why you should care if a girl is turned off by those things (hint: you shouldn’t care). If she doesn’t like it, so what. That’s her problem, her baggage. Not yours.

Third, look at the list you’ve written down. Read each item and realize that it has absolutely nothing to do with your ability to create desire. Building attraction and making a girl feel a connection with you has nothing to do with your job, paycheck, or features. It has everything to do with being comfortable with yourself. That’s where confidence comes from.

There’s no rational reason why you should feel insecure about a girl, no matter how hot she is. If she has a problem with something about you, it’s her loss. Be comfortable with yourself and get on with being the cocky, funny guy who catches her off-guard and stand out from the rest of the pack. If you do, the only thing she’ll care about it getting more of you.

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